Personal development

No one’s prefect - oops - perfect

Perfectionism is a path to misery and it seems to be increasing. Learn more about it, and what you can do to rid yourself of the burden.

Feeling Barmy in a BANI World?

Feeling out of sorts? A bit anxious? You may be experiencing the BANI world. BANI is a model to explain the confusion and anxiety in response to global conditions.

6 Ways to Stay Calm in the Heat of the Moment

If you encounter someone difficult at work, or if someone challenges you, try these 6 techniques to collect yourself.

Pressure to Perfom.

Olympic athletes teach us about performing under pressure, including the importance of rest and recovery, and that resilience can be broken and restored.

The 4th Dimension - 7 Ways to Let Go

How to let go and find freedom from rumination and upset

The 4th Dimension - Letting go!

Why is Letting Go so challenging?


In our Challenge of Change Resilience courses, we talk about the need to value and develop our mental health as much as we do our physical health.

Great Expectations

We often hope that things will get better, or at least, not worse. Better or worse actually means better or worse 'for me.'

What the world needs now...

Is their room for compassion at work?

Carried Over the Threshold

One of the fundamental principles of the Challenge of Change Resilience Training is that stress is not caused by people or situations but is the self-inflicted habit of ruminating about emotional upset.

Certain Uncertain

This year, 2017, is being described as a time of uncertainty, but when was that not the case.

Enough Is Enough

One of the scales on the Challenge of Change questionnaire is titled Perfect Control.

Oaks and Reeds

One of our colleagues had planned an afternoon mountain biking with his wife and teenage family.

Hide or seek?

In the Challenge of Change Profile we have a scale called avoidance coping, which is described as the ostrich principle for dealing with issues – stick your head in the sand and ignore them.

Pick it up and let it go, Part 2

This is a continuation of last week's two part blog. In light of recent tragic international events developing sensitivity to others couldn't be more important.

Pick it up and let it go, Part 1

One of the scales in the Challenge of Change Resilience Profile measures Sensitivity.


Heaven help me, I've just been holidaying with a Toxic Achiever. Do these people never relax?

Smash, Grab and Burble

We know that expressing emotion is a vital part of resolving experiences and building resilience.

I'm Stickin' With You

The immediate feedback we receive from our Resilience courses is overwhelmingly positive and very humbling...

The Planning Trap

Being awake is about having presence of mind, which means that your mind is in the present.

Refreshing news

There's an old joke about the aspiring jazz musician visiting New York and trying to find directions to Carnegie Hall.

Regaining Trust?

‘Regaining the Trust’, but to regain trust it must once have existed.

Prioritising: knowing what doesn’t need to be done

How often are we told we need to prioritise if we’re to be efficient?

Dangerous Myths

The NZ Herald recently carried an article claiming that “showing your anger rather than repressing emotions is the key to a successful life at home and at work”.


New Year is the time for resolutions: a new year, a new opportunity, a celebration to mark the occasion.